Have You Split Up?
How to Help Your Young People Stay On Track During And After Divorce
Divorce or separation is stressful for the whole family, but young people between the ages of 12 and 16 are most at risk of developing anxiety and depression when their parents split up.
The age group of 13-16 years is now the largest being diagnosed with depression and so additional support is valuable, but rarely available to ensure young people don’t end up feeling down.
Usually it’s only later, when exam results come in or when friendships change, or eating problems emerge, that parents are alerted that something is wrong.
It doesn’t need to be that way. Painless Divorce’s multidisciplinary team members have the professional backgrounds to help young people avoid common emotional pitfalls before they emerge.
They’ve created specially-tailored, age appropriate workshops to keep a young person’s confidence on track after their parents have split up.
After school workshops for 13-16 year-olds start at the Festival Hall, Alderley Edge on 5th June.
Painless Divorce also run workshops for 9-12 year olds, so you can make sure your whole family has the resources to feel good about things.
Whether your family is going through divorce now or the process finished some time ago, these emotional wellbeing workshops are for your young people.
Often youngsters will try to protect their parents from how they are feeling and they often try to hide their worries, not wanting to add to their parents’ distress.
They themselves are likely to be going through many changes and trying to get a grip on their own lives, so living with a parental break-up at the same time may tip them over the edge, when what they really need is stability at an important time in their development.
So, how can you support your children during this time and reduce the risk of them being affected by anxiety or depression?
Painless Divorce offers a tailor-made course, clinically proven to reduce stress and boost emotional resilience in young people and if your son or daughter is also feeling stressed because of exams, this course provides the skills to support them through this difficult period.
Therefore, by a young person learning strategies to manage their own thoughts, feelings and emotions about separation or divorce, they develop the life skills to bounce back more quickly from life-changing events and the simple challenges of everyday life.
Both trainers on this course have worked with young people in a variety of settings and are fully DBS checked.
Jo Bentley has been teaching mindfulness to adults, teenagers and children for the last 8 years, after post graduate training at Bangor University and with the Mindfulness in Schools project. Jo works with young people in a range of settings in the North West of England and the USA.
In 2014 Jo was asked by Cumbria County Council to create a programme which would boost emotional resilience amongst young people.
The project was funded by the Big Lottery as part of Head Start and Jo’s programme included training teachers and working in schools to teach mindfulness skills to young people in Carlisle and Barrow.
The programme continues and now includes primary schools and secondary schools in the South Lakes area of Cumbria.
Research with 900 students showed that the majority of students felt more able to cope with challenges in their lives and had developed strategies for dealing with worry, stress, difficult thoughts and emotions, there are also improvements in focus and concentration.
Adriana Galimberti-Rennie is an Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and has spent over 25 years helping couples and families who are trying to stay together or have decided to split up.
She is an expert in collaborative divorce and a chartered psychologist who has dealt with a wide range of issues during her 30 years experience.
Adriana is also an author, a frequent commentator for the BBC, and lectures to lawyers and psychologists on dispute resolution and communication skills.
Comments from young people who have taken the course
“Thank you for helping me to manage my anger, I have a better relationship now with my mum” – Lisa, 14yrs
“I can get to sleep now, I used to lie awake all night, my head wouldn’t let me sleep” – Oliver, 15 yrs
“I thought it would be boring to be calm, but it helps me with everything” – Jane, 16 yrs
“I have a quiet space I can go to when it’s all mad around me” – Tom, 11 yrs
Venue: Festival Hall, Talbot Road, Alderley Edge, Cheshire, SK9 7HR
Dates: Tuesdays 5th, 12th, 19th, 26th June & 3rd July
Times: 4.50pm – 6.15pm
Cost: £250 for 5 workshops
(Places are limited, due of the nature of this course.)
13-16 takes place next month
Younger (9-12 year olds in Sept)